Yes, fifteen years today since my husband died in a car accident. Both so far away and so close.
I wrote here more than once about him, about grief and trying to overcome it and a short time ago, on Septuagent‘s blog, I came across a link towards a paper called The Oldie, and a specific article entitled Enduring grief. I read that article about this woman who lost her husband and how she went through years of grief and one day went to a lecture and the lecturer said:
Older people coping with grief often try to keep their world the same. It is a mistake. If I have one thing to say to all of you it is this: make your world larger. Then there will be room in it for your grieving, but your grieving will not take up all the room. This way you can find space to make a new life for yourselves
In the last two years and a half that I have been blogging, this is exactly what I feel I have been doing.
Do read that article, it’s quite interesting.
The photo was taken on our wedding day in 1981.